ferber method check in, if the baby is not crying

Some children do not cry or make a fuss when they go through any transition but we as a parent become worried that is it normal not to do so. Some kids adjust to new situations very fast.

Let’s say you are in the middle of sleep training using ferber method but you don’t hear your child crying during the progressive waiting interval; you must be wondering if you should check in or not.

In this blog, we will identify reasons why your child might not be crying during the sleep training, should you check on your child, and how to check up on him through the night for self-satisfaction.

Reasons why my child is not crying during the Ferber method:

If your child doesn’t cry a lot during the Ferber method of sleep training, there can be several reasons behind it. 

1- The child has a unique temperament of adapting to things quickly:

Naturally, some children are easygoing and calm when it comes to adapting to any new routine or change. So if your child is not making a fuss about the training and isn’t crying much or even not crying at all, you are one lucky parent.

2- He might have gone through any other sleep training process:

Children who went through any kind of sleep training in the past would most likely not cry when you apply the Ferber method to them. 

The reason is the past training must have lessoned them some amount of patience and self-soothing skills which they might use in this process.

3- Your child’s age and development have matched the Ferber method’s requirements:

Usually, the Ferber method goes easier with young babies. As the baby grows, it becomes harder to train them to self-soothe. 

If you have chosen the right age bracket to use the Ferber sleep training, your baby may adapt to the new routine faster.

4- The child has a unique way of keeping himself calm:

Every child is different. Some adapt to the change with difficulty and some get through it smoothly. If your child is not crying during the training it indicates a positive sign and knows that he is not a demanding child who knows how to self-soothe himself.

Should I check my child even if he is not crying during the Ferber method sleep training: 

As a parent, you know your child best, so trust your instincts and choose an approach that aligns with your parenting style and your child’s needs.

While the Ferber method encourages parents to allow their child to self-soothe and learn to fall asleep independently, it’s important to strike a balance between promoting healthy sleep habits and addressing your child’s needs.

If your child is not crying but seems uncomfortable, restless, or unsettled, it may be worth checking on them to ensure they are okay.

If you don’t see any restlessness or discomfort, you can skip checking in. 

However, checking twice or thrice at night would be great just to be sure he is safe and sleeping peacefully.

ferber method check in if the baby is not crying

How should I check in if my child is not crying during the training:

If your child is not crying during sleep training using the Ferber method, it is a positive sign that he is adjusting well. 

However, you may still want to provide some check-ins to ensure their well-being and offer reassurance.

Here’s how you can approach check-ins when your child is not crying:

1- Establish a self-made check-in chart to check the child:

If your child is crying less or not crying at all, you can notice the pattern for the first few days and can make a self-made check-in chart to see if he is sleeping well. This can be done by setting an alarm on your phone. 

The first check-in, it should be done 15 minutes after you put the child in bed just to see whether he has slept or just lying quietly in bed. 

Any kind of comfort like patting, lullabies, or comfort talk can be done at this point, but make sure you leave the room in 2 minutes. 

After 30 minutes, you should again check the child to see if he has slept or not, chances are there that he must have slept by then.

After that set alarms with gaps of 1.5-2 hours to just peek in the room to see if the child is sleeping peacefully and to keep yourself satisfied through the night.

After 4-5 days, you can check in every 3 hours and gradually increase the time when you see improvement at the end of the week.

2- Do the check-in silently.

I have just mentioned “Just peek and see the situation”. If your baby looks comfortable but he is awake, it means he is trying to go to sleep. In this situation, do not make any noise while peeking. Just ensure the baby is comfortable and come back.

Don’t disturb the child or they would start crying for comfort.

3- Gradually increase the time of check-ins:

You don’t need to be on your toes all night just to see your child again and again. For the initial nights do check the child in closer intervals but as soon as the process grows, you can increase the time.

4- Keep a baby monitor if you don’t want to enter the room.

This is the best solution to keep a baby monitor next to you to avoid all the hassle of getting up and checking the child at night. But even when you keep the baby monitor next to you, you must have put some alarms to wake up and check the monitor for a while.

I would recommend physically checking the child once at night just to be sure, even if you have a baby monitor next to you.

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